Pressure to pay quickly
The person creates urgency, says somebody else is waiting, claims the offer will disappear or discourages you from taking time to check.
Clear guidance for safer searching, safer offers and more careful decisions about communication, postage and payment.
Most people are genuine. Safety guidance exists because one dishonest person can still cause serious harm.
LittleBlueCup exists because community help can be powerful.
Most people who offer help are genuine, generous and kind. But people searching for an important item may be distressed, exhausted or desperate, and scammers may try to exploit that urgency.
Safety is shared work. LittleBlueCup can provide guidance, keep communication on the platform where possible, review reports and help people recognise warning signs. It cannot remove every risk or guarantee that every person, offer or item is genuine.
Most people offering help should be treated with courtesy and good faith.
Nobody should feel rushed into paying, sharing private details or making a decision.
Pausing, checking and reporting concerns are sensible parts of safer searching.
Our strongest payment advice
LittleBlueCup strongly recommends that an item is received and checked before any payment is sent.
This matters especially when a family is desperate for a specific item. Urgency can make people more vulnerable to pressure and more willing to take risks they would normally avoid.
If somebody asks for payment before you have received the item, slow the conversation down. Do not allow urgency, sympathy or fear of losing the item to force a quick decision.
If somebody refuses every reasonable safety arrangement, do not proceed.
No item is worth losing money, exposing private information or placing yourself at risk.
LittleBlueCup can provide safety guidance, preserve platform messages, receive reports and take moderation action where appropriate.
LittleBlueCup cannot guarantee that a person or item is genuine, recover money on somebody's behalf or make an unsafe payment safe.
If you move the conversation away from LittleBlueCup, ignore warning signs or send an unprotected payment before receiving the item, you may be placing yourself at serious financial risk and making it harder for LittleBlueCup to investigate what happened.
People who are scammed are not to blame. Scammers are responsible for their actions. This warning is here to make the risk clear before money is sent.
The safest arrangement is usually item first, payment afterwards.
Many genuine people may be happy to give an item freely. Others may reasonably ask for postage costs or a fair amount for an item that has value.
Asking for money does not automatically mean that somebody is dishonest.
The safest arrangement is normally:
This arrangement protects the recipient from paying for an item that never arrives. Tracking and proof of posting also help protect the sender from a false claim that nothing was delivered. Tracking does not prove the contents or condition of a parcel.
If the sender cannot cover postage first, the postage guidance explains a different risk-reduction option: the recipient buys a courier label directly instead of sending postage money to a stranger. This still means spending before the item arrives and it is not a guarantee, so check whether an unused label can be cancelled before buying it.
Read Pay for Postage, Not PromisesA genuine sender may also worry about posting an item and never being paid. Refusing to post first is not, by itself, proof of a scam.
If payment before receipt is being considered:
If there is no arrangement that gives both people reasonable protection, leave the offer alone.
An item being offered for free does not remove every risk.
A dishonest person may still ask for postage, insurance, a reservation payment or another small amount before the item is sent.
Several small payments can become a larger loss, especially where the story keeps changing.
Do not pay for promises, photographs or excuses. Payment should relate to a real, clearly identified item and a safe, agreed arrangement.
One warning sign does not always prove that somebody is dishonest, but several warning signs together are a reason to stop and ask for help.
The person creates urgency, says somebody else is waiting, claims the offer will disappear or discourages you from taking time to check.
The person avoids showing the exact item, identifying details, condition or a reasonable form of current proof.
The person tries to move the conversation to another messaging service before enough information has been checked. Moving a conversation is not automatically fraudulent, but it removes some of the information LittleBlueCup may need if something goes wrong.
The item, condition, location, postage, price or explanation changes when questions are asked.
The person insists on a payment method that gives little or no practical protection and refuses safer alternatives.
New charges appear for postage, insurance, release fees, customs, storage or another unexpected reason.
The person wants payment but will not use a delivery method that provides reasonable evidence of posting and delivery.
You do not have to prove that somebody is unsafe before asking moderators to look.
A concern is enough. It is better to pause early than to keep going because you feel awkward, guilty or afraid of losing the item.
You never owe a stranger payment merely because they have offered hope.
Messages can still sound natural while keeping enough context and evidence for users and moderators if something goes wrong.
A person offering an item may also be taking a risk. A dishonest recipient could falsely claim that the item did not arrive, deny what was agreed or refuse to pay after receiving it.
People sending an item should:
Safety should not require one person to carry all the risk.
Clear limits help people make safer decisions.
If you think you may have been scammed:
For England, Wales and Northern Ireland, the current police service is Report Fraud. If you live in Scotland or the crime happened there, contact Police Scotland on 101.
Report fraud to the policeAct quickly. A bank or payment provider may have more options when contacted promptly, although recovery is not guaranteed.
Pause when something feels wrong. Keep important conversations and agreements in writing. Do not allow urgency to push you into an unsafe payment.
LittleBlueCup would rather check a genuine concern than miss something that could cause harm.
Receive the item before sending money wherever possible.